"Pushing your baby out" is a rude concept that has NO PLACE in gentle birthing. It is usually counterproductive and is actually a detriment, causing the vaginal sphincters to close ahead of the descending baby. It creates an atmosphere of stress for all involved. Very recent studies suggest that forced pushing over a long period of time can be harmful to a birthing mother and do damage to her pelvic floor.
Strong, forced pushing while other people prompt you will confuse, frustrate and tire you. It also causes your baby to experience emotional and physical trauma, as she is pressed against the walls of a resistant passage that is not yet receptive to her journey. Stories of exhaustive pushing that extends over hours bear out the fact that the baby will descend when she and the birth path are ready.
The wave of the lower body is designed to expel as such surge moves the baby farther down the birth path..These soft, expulsive pulsations of your body will do their job more quickly if left uninterrupted and allowed to function as nature intended...
- MARIE F. MONGAN from Hypnobirthing, The Mongan Method
I really hope there will be no more people wishing me "happy pushing, Tahirah!"
..and there will be no nurses to tell me "ok..teran sekarang!!!" or "..teran panjang2.."
Hope they will follow my birth plan..
Support gentle birthing!! :)